Well let me go straight into our today's topic "Resistance to Change" which implies refusal to accept the change or refusal to comply with the change (Google da). Change being the only thing which remains unchanged u come over the various aspects of it accepting few and providing ur resistance for few.
Acceptance of change doesn't really mean u welcome the change. Its just a mere adaptation to the change at times as u forcibly accept the change quitting the valiant fight u had put to resist it .So here we can put forth the two aspects of resistance, one is to resist completely and the other is adapting to the change forcibly through ur actions and getting used to it but still resisting it through ur heart.
Acceptance of change doesn't really mean u welcome the change. Its just a mere adaptation to the change at times as u forcibly accept the change quitting the valiant fight u had put to resist it .So here we can put forth the two aspects of resistance, one is to resist completely and the other is adapting to the change forcibly through ur actions and getting used to it but still resisting it through ur heart.
Let me explain my case here. I have a flair for individual houses with some lush green around it (u know what i mean) built traditionally. But these days all i can smell everywhere is a 824 Sq.ft 2BHK for INR 3800 per Sq.ft (in suburb) with no space for any afforestation making one's life a congestive affair. Even i spend most of the time living in apartments these days but believe it or not i don't sleep the way i used to do before. Air conditioned room and curl on beds doesn't give me the same pleasure of sleeping over a floor in a ஓட்டு veedu though I'm getting used to it. I have made several conscious attempts not to be in a Flat system but still ended up there. Pallavan buses can also be taken into account in that case. They were more than a transport machines for kids like me during 90's. But with improvement of infrastructure we were able witness Double-Decker, Vestibule and now AC buses. We travel on them though we dont like them like Pallavan.
These are mere adaptations to change making urself flexible for the change thereby ensuring that ur day to day activities arent affected.
Resistance to Change is completely refraining urself from the change and I would say that is quite healthy especially in pursuing human relations. Take the case of Friendship at different stages of your life. When u move into the next phase of life from schooling u tend to lose almost half of the school friends and u begin to move closer with the one whom u find very new and refreshing. School friends comic sense have become quite old for u. U leave out the one's who are not too close to u and offer little resistance by staying in touch with those with whom u were wandering around the entire school life. U say that u spend most of the time with ur college mates and its highly impossible to be the same with ur old mates and u continue to give the same reason while u enter into the next phase of ur life from college. Ur little resistance here makes the remaining school buddies to vanish away from ur life and makes the close aides of ur college to be in ur life for somedays until u find again some new one's. U say that only ur corporate mates understand ur burden of ur official life and hence u go too personal with them. May be the new one's who are getting added in your lives are too refreshing or may be they can listen to u very well and can be a medium of consolation during ur bad times only when u had not given the same space to ur old buddies. Here I'm not saying that u must stick only with ur old buddies. Ur newly found relationships might be too good to u. Even they would have adapted to the change just like u. Worst case being dumb to a SMS received from ur old friend and instead use ur four hands to reply a new bee with in a blink of an eye's time. But think of ur friends who resisted to change who refused to adapt the change where as u adapted and made urself flexible to it. They are left with none where as u are full of options. We always look for new things and only when we feel the loneliness we start thinking of the people who were always willing to be with us forever whom we left in lurch for the sake of our own adventure in life.
Many times resistance comes down to personal fear of losing people in your life. Hence don't resist at your own risk. Resistance gives you time to look into the possible alternatives and hence don't merely adapt the change defensively.
Since this being my only second blog pardon me for all wrong grammar nuances. Will be flexible to change it without resisting myself :D
Do leave out your comments, suggestions and arguments if any. Thanks for reading with patience.
